Stuck in Loneliness
April 15th, 2009
By Monica F. Helms
(This is the 3rd and final installment in the “Stuck in . . . ” series.)
We all know that loneliness does not limit itself to LGB or T people. This feeling probably strikes 100% of the human population at one time of another, many living in perpetual loneliness for most [...]
Doubt and Dysphoria
Dysphoria is a constant in my life at the moment, but so is doubt of my trans status.How can these two things coexist, I ask myself a lot. I think it’s because the dysphoria is a horribly uncomfortable physical sensation but I can never quite identify whether it is a discomfort with having these [...]
This idea was sparked off by Kiunna’s wonderful post on “I think trannies worry far too much about passing”.
What is ‘passing’ in a trans* context? I’m trying to work this out for myself. Or, more, I know what it is (being read as the gender you identify as) but I can see two rather distinct problems [...]
The other day in class, my teacher told me I have a strong voice and that I might wanna be more careful of my tone in the future. I took it pretty hard. Granted, I’d had a pretty bad day leading up to that point, but I immediately started wondering if he knew, if someone [...]
Being “stealth” means very different things to different people. You get some people who choose to be stealth, and see the bounds of that as telling their partner, but nobody else, whereas other people can see being stealth as not wearing the transgender logo on every single item of clothing, or maybe not shouting it [...]
To all the older transitioners who tell me I’m doing what’s right
When I came out to myself as trans, I thought “okay, this makes it easy now. I’m trans, everything makes sense, I’ll go on testosterone, get top surgery, and then be happy”. I was an idealistic sixteen, and hoped that it was that simple. Nothing [...]
I can’t count the number of times I’ve been asked “Why (or When) did you decide to become a man?” In the beginning, I felt angry when someone asked this. I’ve since realized that they are asking because they have a need to understand, they are asking for education. Turning my initial anger into seeing [...]
