Comments on: On Becoming a Parent http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/ Transgender Considerations Thu, 29 Dec 2011 03:42:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Julie http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-48 Julie Fri, 13 Mar 2009 17:49:10 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-48 It's always about love. Love. You and Lillian are beautiful and loving people to adopt into your lives and home this young man. When he finally can come home to you, I know you will all experience a love like no other: the love of family in the truest sense! You will all give and receive, live and learn with each other. Hugs to you... It’s always about love. Love. You and Lillian are beautiful and loving people to adopt into your lives and home this young man. When he finally can come home to you, I know you will all experience a love like no other: the love of family in the truest sense! You will all give and receive, live and learn with each other. Hugs to you…

]]> By: Oliver http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Oliver Fri, 06 Feb 2009 18:32:10 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-24 Michael, I am constantly amazed by your vision and humanity! And the courage of you and Lillian to take on the task. And this young man has the opportunity to help the two of you expand the vision. At least that is what we sometime hope to imprint on kids. Look forward to meeting him. Perhaps through TMII, we can build a center such as we have in Dallas, www.youthfirsttexas.org where al LGBTQ and questioning youth have a sanctuary to come to and be with like minded kids. Kudos to you my friend. Oliver Michael,
I am constantly amazed by your vision and humanity! And the courage of you and Lillian to take on the task. And this young man has the opportunity to help the two of you expand the vision. At least that is what we sometime hope to imprint on kids. Look forward to meeting him.
Perhaps through TMII, we can build a center such as we have in Dallas, http://www.youthfirsttexas.org where al LGBTQ and questioning youth have a sanctuary to come to and be with like minded kids.
Kudos to you my friend.
Oliver

]]> By: Dharma Kelleher http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Dharma Kelleher Thu, 05 Feb 2009 14:59:39 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-23 Congrats, Michael. I know from personal experience how wonderful it is to mentor people. Keep in mind, that years of living in an unstable home environment often takes a deeper toll than we realize. There may come a time when he will rebel or make really poor choices. While he may be your son, he will still be an adult, free to make his own decisions. It's not unusual for someone from an unloving environment to runaway from those trying to help because that means allowing oneself to be vulnerable. It can be scary. I hope that doesn't happen, but be prepared. I once mentored someone who was in a physically abusive relationship. No matter how I cautioned her and talked with her, she continued to go back to her girlfriend and get beaten up. I realized then that all I could do was be available and allow her to learn her own lessons. Eventually she did. Being a mentor can be euphoric at times. It can be heartbreaking at times, too. But even in those dark times, trust the process. Love unconditionally. And know that every word of wisdom you share and every act of kindness creates a better world. Peace, my brother, Dharma Congrats, Michael. I know from personal experience how wonderful it is to mentor people.

Keep in mind, that years of living in an unstable home environment often takes a deeper toll than we realize. There may come a time when he will rebel or make really poor choices. While he may be your son, he will still be an adult, free to make his own decisions. It’s not unusual for someone from an unloving environment to runaway from those trying to help because that means allowing oneself to be vulnerable. It can be scary. I hope that doesn’t happen, but be prepared.

I once mentored someone who was in a physically abusive relationship. No matter how I cautioned her and talked with her, she continued to go back to her girlfriend and get beaten up. I realized then that all I could do was be available and allow her to learn her own lessons. Eventually she did.

Being a mentor can be euphoric at times. It can be heartbreaking at times, too. But even in those dark times, trust the process. Love unconditionally. And know that every word of wisdom you share and every act of kindness creates a better world.

Peace, my brother,
Dharma

]]> By: Kim Pearson http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Kim Pearson Thu, 05 Feb 2009 03:12:13 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-22 Michael, Remember when I told you that you were being sucked into the TYFA VORTEX? Hmmm, now you know what I mean, eh? It is not possible to be around these kids and not be moved to do great things and as I say so often it is not acceptable to lose a single child! So we all do what we can, when we can and we keep them safe for another day. I'm so proud of you and Lillian and I'm proud to call you my friends. Congratulations Mom and Dad, it's a boy! Kim Pearson Executive Director TransYouth Family Allies Proud Mom to 16 year old affirmed male Shawn, who provides the vision in my life Michael,

Remember when I told you that you were being sucked into the TYFA VORTEX? Hmmm, now you know what I mean, eh? It is not possible to be around these kids and not be moved to do great things and as I say so often it is not acceptable to lose a single child! So we all do what we can, when we can and we keep them safe for another day. I’m so proud of you and Lillian and I’m proud to call you my friends.

Congratulations Mom and Dad, it’s a boy!

Kim Pearson
Executive Director
TransYouth Family Allies
Proud Mom to 16 year old affirmed male Shawn, who provides the vision in my life

]]> By: transmanaz http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-21 transmanaz Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:23:08 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-21 Thanks Pamela, but no... not a saint. Simply a guy who wants the best for his kids. Thanks Pamela, but no… not a saint. Simply a guy who wants the best for his kids.

]]> By: Mae http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Mae Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:18:56 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-20 I only wish I had a Trans mentor growing up and dealing with the emotion of being Trans. Like this young man you're mentoring, I was in a bad home situation growing up (alcoholic mentally unstable mother, distant step father). Luckily I have an amazing father and step mother who saved me. Now, as an adult, I thank G-d everyday for their presence in my life. I know this young man will one day be as appreciative to you as I am today to my (true) parents. Give him my best, and if there is anything I can do, please let me know. Thank you for all you do. I only wish I had a Trans mentor growing up and dealing with the emotion of being Trans. Like this young man you’re mentoring, I was in a bad home situation growing up (alcoholic mentally unstable mother, distant step father). Luckily I have an amazing father and step mother who saved me. Now, as an adult, I thank G-d everyday for their presence in my life. I know this young man will one day be as appreciative to you as I am today to my (true) parents. Give him my best, and if there is anything I can do, please let me know. Thank you for all you do.

]]> By: Pamela Anders http://genderblogs.com/on-becoming-a-parent/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Pamela Anders Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:09:04 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=210#comment-19 Michael, you are truly a saint for helping this young man. I will also do whatever I can to help him. Pam Michael, you are truly a saint for helping this young man. I will also do whatever I can to help him.

Pam

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