Comments on: Society and the Realities of “Blending in” http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/ Transgender Considerations Thu, 29 Dec 2011 03:42:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Oliver http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/comment-page-1/#comment-25 Oliver Fri, 06 Feb 2009 19:20:47 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=182#comment-25 Michael, It is a conundrum this life in the trans-relationship world but not much different than the Lesbian, Gay or even hetero world. Becoming strong and clear in our own minds translates to those we meet in just about any situation. Transitioning is another level of selfactualizaton. Consider, introducing T or estrogen into the body may catapult us towards integration of our spirits,but one still has to learn through experience the " social integration" needed to coexist with human kind. That is not the same as becoming a stereotype which I see so often expressed in the FtM youth YouTube culture. Or the MtF who feels they must "super feminize" or over compensate to feel excepted. And you are so right about our sisters who have so many skills to learn just to be in the public eye. Selfactualization is a complex process. Interestingly, it is those who haven't that perpetuate hatred, bigotry, and violence because they have never thought for themselves. The imprint from the family of orgin, care giver, or religious affiliation has never been challenged and they carry on the tradition. The subjects of transcommnity and the permutations of possible intimate relationships, the difference between sexual expression and gender expression, and how transfolk are drawn to one another are ,for me, areas of ongoing research. It is facinating to see how we evolve and transcend. Anyone interested in commenting, holler back at me. Oliver Michael,
It is a conundrum this life in the trans-relationship world but not much different than the Lesbian, Gay or even hetero world. Becoming strong and clear in our own minds translates to those we meet in just about any situation. Transitioning is another level of selfactualizaton. Consider, introducing T or estrogen into the body may catapult us towards integration of our spirits,but one still has to learn through experience the ” social integration” needed to coexist with human kind.
That is not the same as becoming a stereotype which I see so often expressed in the FtM youth YouTube culture. Or the MtF who feels they must “super feminize” or over compensate to feel excepted. And you are so right about our sisters who have so many skills to learn just to be in the public eye.

Selfactualization is a complex process. Interestingly, it is those who haven’t that perpetuate hatred, bigotry, and violence because they have never thought for themselves. The imprint from the family of orgin, care giver, or religious affiliation has never been challenged and they carry on the tradition.

The subjects of transcommnity and the permutations of possible intimate relationships, the difference between sexual expression and gender expression, and how transfolk are drawn to one another are ,for me, areas of ongoing research. It is facinating to see how we evolve and transcend.
Anyone interested in commenting, holler back at me.
Oliver

]]> By: transmanaz http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/comment-page-1/#comment-14 transmanaz Tue, 20 Jan 2009 22:54:40 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=182#comment-14 Thank you, Dharma. Thank you, Dharma.

]]> By: Dharma Kelleher http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/comment-page-1/#comment-13 Dharma Kelleher Tue, 20 Jan 2009 22:49:01 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=182#comment-13 How incredibly insightful! Well said! How incredibly insightful! Well said!

]]> By: transmanaz http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/comment-page-1/#comment-12 transmanaz Tue, 20 Jan 2009 13:19:59 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=182#comment-12 That is certainly true, Jamie. I didn't mean to imply otherwise. Anyone (regardless of sexuality, orientation, "in the closet", out and proud, etc.) who advocates for the rights and equalities of the transgender community is helping further educate and raise public awareness of us. For us men, "blending in" is something that comes more easily than form some the women (again, generally speaking) once we begin taking hormones. Most people when they meet us have no idea we are trans. I am aware of a number of guys who have chosen to live stealth. Most of them, however, are not activists, and they are among the ones who sit around and complain about, for instance, the health care system's lack of support for the trans community. I personally believe that the more exposed we as a community of trans persons become, the quicker the world will have to learn to accept and support us. An interesting blog/article came on on Queerty today about Transgender persons becoming more visible: http://tinyurl.com/8ukdgy That is certainly true, Jamie. I didn’t mean to imply otherwise. Anyone (regardless of sexuality, orientation, “in the closet”, out and proud, etc.) who advocates for the rights and equalities of the transgender community is helping further educate and raise public awareness of us.

For us men, “blending in” is something that comes more easily than form some the women (again, generally speaking) once we begin taking hormones. Most people when they meet us have no idea we are trans. I am aware of a number of guys who have chosen to live stealth. Most of them, however, are not activists, and they are among the ones who sit around and complain about, for instance, the health care system’s lack of support for the trans community.

I personally believe that the more exposed we as a community of trans persons become, the quicker the world will have to learn to accept and support us.

An interesting blog/article came on on Queerty today about Transgender persons becoming more visible:

http://tinyurl.com/8ukdgy

]]> By: Jamie http://genderblogs.com/society-and-the-realities-of-blending-in/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Jamie Tue, 20 Jan 2009 09:42:29 +0000 http://genderblogs.com/?p=182#comment-11 I agree mostly, I'd just like to point out you can be stealth and an activist ;-) I agree mostly, I’d just like to point out you can be stealth and an activist ;-)

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